5.9.21

 
while one of them was enthused by on-line dating siteshed been divorced thirtyfive days the other counseled grieving for the lost relationship
                         Its a death-of-sorts an ya ought to process it

It’s a process to divorce, and when you finally decide to involve an attorney, file the paperwork, I’ll tell you, you’ve processed it.

Ill concede I wont argue Ive never been divorc . .
. . It’s no fun; I never imagined I would.
                                                     probably why people caution others not to say never

So hear me out, tell me what you think.

All ears

I was texting with a woman who told me she had a list of eleven things that were dealbreakers.

    Sure    I could see that

You can?

Certainly
           Yacant

I’m confused, you think it’s all eleven things?

You didnt ask

I didn’t.

Seems that was the time to communicate your confusionnot wanting to misunderstand her

Come on, you don’t want to sound stup . .
. . You didnt want to sound stupid Theres no such a thing as a stupid question if its asked in earnest Thats how children learn adults learn

I wasn’t going to ask.

he bunched his shoulders in irritation then relaxed
                                                      Ill answer then She has a list of eleven non-starters Any one of them that raises its ugly head she disconnectsdoesnt waste another moment of her time Seems to me entirely honest forthright

You got a list?

Im in a relationship
                     An actually I think you could learn from her Have you made up a listI know you don wanna work that hard but its only a list to have on hand ya don have to prioritise

So if a woman should mention three things on my list . .
. . Jesus  No
                  One

One thing on my list?

One

Isn’t that being too critical?

One

Wouldn’t I be being too critical?

ONE
     Christ A relationship aint baseballthree strikes an yare out One  Please 
So rather than the back an forth I got a pen and paper Lets go
                                                                   Hell Ill go first  Theyre not interested in arthavent art on the walls

So you’re saying if someone wasn’t fond of art you wouldnt date them?

ONE
       You go

I couldnt say.

Not interested in music doesnt own albums CDs
                                                   Thats two off the top of my head he wrote them on the right side of the page Gimme one

What if someone sees . .
. . What

Sees what you write down for my list.

Are you fuckin kiddin me he rolled his eyesCohens Last Year’s Man sounded in his ears like a shy one at some orgy Gimme one woudya  One

It’s hard.

Its hard to think of something that would put you off

Yes. You know I’m I have to be physically attracted first . .
. . That has nothing to do with it
                                   Oldadage  beautys only skin deep . .
. . You'd discount beauty, attraction?

Dip a turd in chocolate ya gonna eat it

Funny. How would you know it’s a turd?

Id ask whats inside
                     Three if they don read don like books don make the cut Itsfor lack of a better term vetting
Gimme one  Ive given you three

Alright, okay . . dishonest, if they’re prone to lyin . .
. . Like your exwife

That’s a low blow.

Its not inaccurate the truth hurts didnt mean it as a low blow a statement of fact  Yare on a roll a second  Dishonest

Smoking.

Cigarettes not grassright not cigarsright

Yes, cigarettes . .
. . A third

They can’t be sleazy . .
. . Slutty . .
. . No, sleazy . .
. . Because sluttys acceptable . .
. . I wouldn’t say that . .
. . Yare a slut . .
. . I wouldn’t say that . .
. . I wouldI did you are

Perhaps I am . . lemme rephrase . Too fast . . I wouldn’t want a woman coming on to me too fast, rush me.

Good to know that isnt it
                           Thats three It aint hard  An anyone of those three should be a dealbreaker NO MATTER HOW ATTRACTIVE THEY ARE or how attracted you are to them 
Walkaway

Easier said than don . .
. . Don bait memake me insult youyoud take it as an insult again
                                                                      Four incurious  You

Can I agree with, take yours.

If thats strike you certainly

Yes . . no bimbos.

Careful friend

I was joking . .
. . You werent 
                 Oral sex Receiving an giving  Five . .
. . I don’t get that . .
. . Anya shouldnt if yare unwilling to go down on a womangive her head good an proper

That’s your thing.

It ought to be your thingId bet it was one of her eleven things

Nah, that aint happenin . .
. . Then yare okay not getting head

I would say . . I would say . yes, Im okay not getting head.

WOW wha a sexual beast you are
                                     Six lacking confidence Confidence is terribly attractive  sexy

I’d, I’d say, bad health . .
. . Fat

I didn’t say that.

I watched your face as you said it You said yare not keen on dishonest a dealbreaker Be honest  ya meant   FAT . .
. . Bad hygiene . .
. . Fat . .
. . You say it like that, it sounds bad . .
. . Though honest why beat around the bush yawouldnt beat around a fat bush

No.  I wouldn’t.

Ill write down bad hygiene

Thank you.

Yare welcome
               Onto seven  Doesnt like beer a winer

If they haven’t a sense of humour; they don’t have to like The Three Stooges . .
. . Don give me ideas
                       Please . . I interrupted you

They have to have a sense of humour, have to smile and laugh out loud, belly laughs.

Thats a good sixth
                     Yare trailing A seventh

You’re really pushing me . .
. . Rushin you your number three But Im not a chick an I know yare easily bored an then you disconnect
                                                                                                               You are going to give me eleven Number seven only five more

I don’t need eleven non-starters.

Were playing the game that gal you texted with laid out
                                                           You were a nogo with her werentya

I was; another reason I don’t want to keep playing.

Oh were playing this to the bitter end
                                         Kinda like you playing an on-line IQ test an disagreeing with your results Which I know you dolike the personality tests Ive encouraged you to take an you disagree with . .
. . It’s not who I am . .
. . It is who you are Some selfawareness man Objectivity for the sake of the subjectivity you answered your reveal

They’re bullshit . .
. . Only bullshit if you were dishonest number one on your hit chart if you were being dishonest answering the test questions
            Number seven You need me to replay your listRight here

No. I don’t need you to remind me.

Number seven

Pushy . .
. . Seven  Christ

She has to exhibit a playfulness, mind and body – which isn’t repeating her having to have a sense of humour.

Understood
             Weve four to go Number eight If she would refuse to wear my Jockey dago-Ts without a bra Wed be in the comfort of my place or hers

This is stupid; what do you imagine she had on her list of eleven?

Likely what we have on ours

Come on, unlikely.

Why do you say that

She’s a woman.

Don do that shes a person first and foremost The way it came out of your mouth yare denigrating herdenigrating her sex
     I keep telling ya women are superior to men Rather superior to you

I don’t buy it.

Four words to you my friend
                               White male privilege entitlement
Whya gotta keep a brother down evenif shes a sister
An donya dare argue your privilege with me which in turn created your entitlement something ya rarely question It is  so be it
          Your eighth

You’re just going to eight without allowing me to address your diatribe, your rant?

Yes Nothing to refute
                        If yare honest Number one on your list

You make it sound like a bad thing.

Its a dirty job but somebodys got to do it
                                                   Eight


She has to have an appreciation of Nature, respect the environment, understand it’s fragile and under attack.

Very good Thoughtful
                           Has to like porn
Porn?

Number ninemy nine Porn

They really have to like porn?

Place porn up against mayhem and murder slashers  That fuckin series whadahell  yah  ohyah   Saw
Id rather watch people make lovefuck than be murdered
Porn

Nine

Won’t be my friend.

Ouch

Has to be a true friend.

I understand
              Ten Two to go  Has to like professional football on television The only sport I watchon occasion hockey but only watch football during the year

Has to have a nice big smile.

When

What do you mean when?

As opposed to wearing a scowl a frown a smile is just a frown turned upsidedown

Yes. She has to wear a smile; smiles, a lot.

Youd have something to do with thatya understand

Yes. Of course.

As long as thats understood
                                Eleven Yawanna go first on eleven

No.  I can’t think of an eleventh right now.

I was gonna suggest we step into the great beyond Go to a twelfth

No, can’t think of an eleventh.

Greed She cant be greedy  Eleven

I can’t think right now.

Ill get us another beer
                       Think on it Then when I return you can give me your eleventh


he dug in his heels
                    returning from inside with the beers he was done
I exhausted you
                 The woman bettered you

Don’t go there, you’re trying to provoke me.

Fact is not provocation

 

when he left to drive home after pestering him throughout that beer and another beer with barbecue he told him he intended to text him throughout evening he wanted his eleventh caveat dealbreaker or hed start calling him and fuck with his on-line dating app evening 


later that night after three texts spread over the first hour he was home he got :  : Dah…overly religious, close minded, dogmatic, conservative, biased...all pretty much synonyms.

he almost texted him back to ask what overly religious was
                                                                religious would easily make his dozen   

  :  :  Thank you, I’ll record it for you.

1555,  Saturday,  4  9. 21
1321, Sunday,  5  9. 21
Leonard Cohen  Last Year’s Man  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKEdWBXcgAE

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