29.9.17





They who would be young when they are old,
must be old when they are young.  John Ray, 1670


Whilst part of what we perceive comes through our senses from the object before us, another part (and it maybe the larger part) always comes out of our own minds.  William James, The Principles of Psychology(sighcology)




he had to admit it threw him a curve

he hadnt slept on the floor forwha  five years   August  after sleeping on the floor for almost twelve years prior

Really a fullgrown man sleeping on the floor  Why   Floors are hard

there were few basements in Californiahe hazarded because of the shakers(Rays Flatuses) they werent the housesthe floors he was accustom to in the Midwest subfloors finished floors laid on top of floor joists

sarcasticallyReally  A fullgrown man can sleep anywhere he wants

You think a womans gonna join you on the floor

Havent had any complaints


he talked his Japanese mother-in-law out of one of her authentic fullsize futons

it served his purpose the West always thinks it has the world by the balls

his bedroom had low shelves on three walls for his books  the wallspace above them harboured his art  it was dense with canvases and framed photographs

his girlfriend said his place reminded her of a museuma sanctuary 

she accepted the floor

they relished the floor

he promised her the advantage of the futon was that he couldnt knock her out of bed in his passion

sometimes their passion ended up in the narrow hallway at the bedrooms threshold

they collapsed at night
                  when they awoke in the morning they laughed at where they found themselves passion takes you and leaves you where it will they were very passionate




'the curve was the dreams he had sleeping on this floorthis house they rented after a fire stole their museum their sanctuary

he conceded

they bought a nice bed

Isnt this better she asked

Its different  I wonder if Ill suffer altitude sickness

Youre such a screwball  Admit its better

For you  Its better

Youre quoting me arent you

I am

Gotta be a tough nut

Theres something to thatIve spent a lot of time becoming one  But Im your nut

You are  Youre my nutI love you

I love you



she struggled with autoimmune challengesbaked in the cake

he snored  a less difficult challenge 

he couldnt hear himself 

she could

her flares made her exquisitely sensitive  and that sensitivity was heaped atop her already exquisitely sensitive nature  she vibrated like insect antennae      

he said hed sleep in the livingroom

No  Please  I dont want you to

Thank you baby  However what you want and what you need are two different things  You need as much restsleep as you can get and my snoring is keeping you awake  The answers plain an itll be for only a short time  Sooner you come out of your flare the sooner Ill be in bed with youBesides  you know I like sleeping on the flooreh

Yes  I hate your logic

he took the livingroom floor and slept and dreamt and every night he dreamt he was a boy a boy playing with the children who lived in this house three boys and a girlbing bing bing bing inside a year of each other the ginger girl was the youngest they played in wagons on tricycles climbed trees ran riot in yards and as often as the little girl got tromped run over she refused to cryshe picked herself up pushed the tears out of her eyes with the heel of her hands a swing fashioned from a broken branch of a eucalyptus knotted with a rope to a tree jumped ropes played marbles tops catchingtrying to catch lizards fireflies their rural California childhood blending with his Chicago boyhood playing in fallen Dutch Elm leaves street football jumping over leaves burning in street gutters  he woke with the smell Spring lilac bushes Lilies of the Valley in his nosethe boys sweat the girls soft scent



they met the ginger girl an old woman now

she lived in a house three houses up street

when they moved in she gamely walked over to give them a housewarming basket fresh baked bread olallieberry jam fruit off her vines she showed them pictures of her family on the porch of the house told them all three of her brothers died in the war broke her parents hearts they died in the house My father built it Im sure you know from its awkward construction Few true corners and leaving refusing their escort she said So my dears youre living among lots and lots of fond memories    


they never told her they also found they were living with ghosts



its different though living with ghosts youre familiar with than not


he told his girlfriendhis partner of his dreams

I dont know if Im happy youre having them or not 

I get to share them with you

You do though I cant help but wish they would come to me too

I think your challenges have you at a disadvantage baby  If you dont mind hearing them Im happy to tell you

Yes Please  Tell me of all the beautiful colours and warmth  Im a bit jealous  But pleaseplease continue to tell me  It seems you go to sleep and play all night long

I do  They play nicely  Children just having fun
I dont know if children play like this anymore
              

1211,  Day-between-Two-Ts,  27  9. 17
1100, Thursday,  28  9. 17
Cat Stevens  Where Do the Children Play?  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KsbecB-2M2E
Caleb Carr  The Alienist

28.9.17





his daughters heart swung agilely troublingly through across up and down the jungle gym as if it were beating in a primates chest


her six year relationship was cruelly beheaded by her boyfriend who said he couldnt trust her anymorewho said he was struggling with the end of it  who whined to mutual friends to cinch sympathy   and who began dating a barista at his favorite coffee shop two weeks after he broke up with her

he mitigated his circumstance

he cherrypicked his facts



yes  she was his daughter

yes  her hurt would be his hurt and concerna parent is always a parentchicks leaving the nest didnt negate that he was her father 
        he wouldnt have had children if he didnt want to be a fatherdidnt want to assume the awesome responsibility of raising childrentrying his best to direct them

he laid out his reasons

they laid out theirs

but after all it was their lives to live  and he would have failed them if they didnt make their own choices and live their lives as he chose to live his

aside from being a parent

he was their oldest friend



she twisted and turned on her emotions    hung  her feet off the ground

he told her unfortunately(as she knew) it was a necessary part of the process  itd get better then it wouldnt  then it would   and wouldnt    then one day without note or triumph it would be just another day in her life  the hurt alleviated

what wasnt part of the process however was the neglect she enduredsuffered at the hands of his family who made pronouncements of love to herhis parents professed they loved her like a daughter his sisters  they loved her like a sister
        THEN
as he slinked away from their relationshipdumping anything and everything he could on his daughter  be footloose and fancyfree as possible  Ill think about it  his consistent rejoinder to everything his daughter held up to him  Ill think about it
he never did

he didnt even have to moxie to tell his parents he broke up with his daughterhe let his sisters disseminate the news  left the heavy lift to everyone else because he was emotionally unkept unable to face the music
                                                                        though what music
his sisters and parents didnt reply to his daughters outreachdidnt console her or at the very least say their truly enjoyed the years she spent in their livestheir shared timebreaking bread in confidence

when you take someone into your confidenceconfide in them  you have a relationship

thats what he taught his daughtersthey taught his daughters

his daughter said maybe she set the bar too high
NO
    You provide to a relationship what you hope will be returned to youit is yes  an expectation  however some people cloy on it they use you   and you do not know youve been used until times such as this

you risk that in any relationship you begin

if it doesnt come back to you

thats not your problem

its theirs



he wanted to write his daughters boyfriends parents

but then he realised he would assault their parentingpity their inability to raise thoughtful adults

thoughtful adults descend from thoughtful parents

they werent

they would only take umbrage from his sharp words


so he didnt writehe quietly conceded to his daughter that everyone has the right to breeda right to breed without considering their offspring

he just wished they named their children Sex so others might realise their children would need more help than those children who were birthed in love


0906,  Day-between-Two-Ts,  27  9. 17
Chicago  Wake Up Sunshine  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-7Qz2xPyJbc